"i can’t control a single word that comes out of my mouth you can’t blame me for saying things i could easily not say"
Constant apology is part of anxiety. Yelling at them to stop just makes it worse. Saying that they can just not say sorry is like saying that a person with depression can just stop being sad. IT IS PART OF THEIR DISORDER THAT TEY CANNOT CONTROL.
people with depression don’t tell strangers they want to kill themselves because they can control their words just like everyone else. saying that you can’t control what you say promotes a double standard, racists and homophobes can’t say anything they want just because they “can’t control it”. it’s bullshit. i have anxiety, people i love have anxiety, and i know for a fact that you don’t compulsively say it with absolutely no control. you make the choice to let it come out of your mouth and you absolutely can control it.feeling sorry and saying it are two completely different things. it’s not a good idea to bottle it all up inside but it’s also not out of your control by any means. don’t make excuses for behavior you can change.
People have default reactions to certain situations. Sometimes healthy, sometimes not. The unhealthy ones can be overcome, with or without professional help. So a person CAN gain control over their actions and words. I’m not going to try to dispute that.
However, in situations of intense emotion (which is what this comic is showing), it becomes incredibly difficult to remember what you’ve learned. Someone shouting (which is what the other person in this comic does throughout the entire comic) is going to make remembering it even harder. Everyone handles difficult situations in different ways. The person in this comic (with anxiety) handles this situation by apologizing. A depressed person might handle whatever happened with cutting.
This isn’t about an every day moment. It’s about an intensely emotional moment. This is about a moment where being in control of yourself is difficult. So this person defaulted to apologizing. They don’t know what else to do. It’s automatic and extremely difficult to control.
Saying “sorry” is a defense mechanism commonly seen in people with anxiety and abuse survivors. Comparing a defense mechanism related with a mental disorder to shit said by homophobes and other bigoted people is one of the most disgusting forms of ableism I’ve seen today.